What do you get when you have one hot-shot columnist, a sensible attorney, a PR expert who happens to be a sex addict, and a frazzled but oh-so-caring wife and mom? None other than Sex and the City, of course! The adventures of Carrie Bradshaw and her three best friends have been around for years—and their lessons and stories are still relevant in 2019.
Sometimes the stories are far-fetched, but Sex and the City shows us how to enjoy every phase of life—and to strive for friendship, purpose, and love while we’re at it. Whenever I channel my inner Carrie Bradshaw (sans the designer jeans and walk-in closet), I feel empowered to listen to my heart and surround myself with people who want what is best for me. After watching the series in its entirety (three times!), I began to pick out a few romance tips that seem to apply to just about any situation. So, as a homage to my favorite show and a giant thank you to Carrie, I’ve compiled 5 of my favorite romance tips that Carrie Bradshaw taught us in Sex and the City.
Tip #1: “After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot.”
Not that Carrie always followed this advice, but through her many bumps in the road, she realized the value it holds. Life happens, and when you’re faced with the daunting question, “What am I going to do?” the best thing to do is reboot, get out there and start doing something.
Tip #2: “I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t live without each other love.”
We’re all looking for love, but how many of us settle in the end? Carrie Bradshaw is always on the hunt for that all-consuming love that makes her forget about everything else in the world. So if you can’t stop thinking about someone (in the best way possible), you may have found your one-of-a-kind love. Carrie would be so proud!
Tip #3: “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.”
…The addendum to tip #2. In order to find that love, you have to love yourself first. Throughout the Sex and the City series, Carrie and her friends go through wild experiences and emotional journeys—together and on their own. They know when to put themselves first and when to prioritize a significant other. And when they question it, it usually comes back to this sentiment: If you don’t know how to love yourself, chances are you won’t know how to love someone else.
Tip #4: “Some love stories aren’t epic novels — some are short stories. But that doesn’t make them any less filled with love.”
We’ve all dreamed about having a happily ever after…but what happens when that fairytale reaches its end? Not every relationship will be forever, and that’s a hard idea to wrap your mind around. Carrie reminds us that all love stories are different, but they are all filled with love, memories, and learning experiences nonetheless.
Tip #5: “Maybe you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.”
After all, change is the only constant. Jobs change, interests change, friendships and relationships change, and YOU change. Embrace it rather than fight it, and let it be your spirit guide through this winding road of life.
Carrie Bradshaw can definitely be a drama queen—and she admits it! But she sure knows how to relate to everyone in some way or another. She’s been through a lot, with friendships, love stories, exes, and words of wisdom to show for it. The next time you need a pick-me-up, tune into a Sex and the City episode. While Carrie is typing away at the keyboard, you may pick up a lesson or a laugh along the way.