Do you show your love with an act of selflessness but are the last to say “I love you?” Or do you write a love letter but then neglect to text back immediately? We all have ways of communicating our feelings that can seem like a foreign language to our loved ones. Understanding your own love language can help improve your relationships, and the key to it may just be in your horoscope sign.
Aries
You are direct and to the point, but you don’t have the time or patience to stop and think it all through. Bravery and daring are part of your astrological DNA, after all. Let’s be honest, you prefer to be the one in charge of the relationship, dictating the rules of engagement, so your action-oriented love language may make demands or set plans in motion. The girlfriend that completely overhauls her boyfriend’s closet and personal style? That’s you. But it’s an act of love.
You might say:
“We should live like we smoke — inhale the present and exhale the past.”
― Cora Carmack, Faking It
Taurus
Your love language is one for the ages, Taurus. You’re so practical in all matters, but when it comes to romance, you want to touch and be touched. Taurus is a world-class cuddler who makes a partner feel loved, inside and out. Sweet little gifts don’t hurt either nor does a candlelit five-course meal. Your words may not be flowery, but they reveal feelings so real, they are timeless.
You might say:
“Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.”
― Nicole Krauss, The History of Love
Gemini
When dealing with emotions, Gemini is all reason and logic — not one of the zodiac’s great romantics. Your brainy style might seem a bit cold or even eccentric to some, but beneath that matter-of-factness is a passionate heart looking for its counterpoint. Gemini’s love language involves a mindmeld, whether being able to nerd out on a shared interest or literally pressing foreheads against one another and enjoying the closeness.
You might say:
“A bond between souls is ancient — older than the planet.”
― Dianna Hardy, The Witching Pen
Cancer
You have no problem expressing your needs, Cancer, but sometimes you just wish that your lover could anticipate them the way you do for him or her. This zodiac sign shows love through care and nurturing, and that quick hug or word of encouragement is always just at the right time. You’re intuitive like that. An equally well-placed compliment or gesture is so meaningful to you, you’re always surprised — and left feeling a bit vulnerable — when it does finally come around.
You might say:
“It’s just that I don’t want to be somebody’s crush. If somebody likes me, I want them to like the real me, not what they think I am. And I don’t want them to carry it around inside. I want them to show me, so I can feel it too.”
― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Leo
Your love language might come in the form of a love bite, Leo, but one that’s only meant to draw attention and not blood. When you feel all the feels, your lover will know by the heat of the passionate kiss or the strength of the bear hug you give. Not content with PDA, you also enjoy big announcements and grand gestures. Cue the fireworks.
You might say:
“Do you know how many ways love can hit you? So it makes you happy, or miserable? It makes you sick in the belly or hurt in the heart. It makes everything brighter and sharper, or it blurs all the edges. It makes you feel like a king or a fool. Every way love can hit you, it’s hit me when it comes to you”
― Nora Roberts, Black Hills
Virgo
A Virgo is an ace at efficient communication, but for this sign, actions speak louder than words. You’re honest to the point of distraction, which doesn’t allow you to overlook faults or gloss over inconsistencies — not the best recipe for romance. Yet you love to be in love. The way it manifests is through acts of devotion, service and self-sacrifice, like spending sleepless nights helping your significant other study for the bar exam. When you’re in it, you’re IN it, Virgo, but it’s on your terms.
You might say:
“I wish, as well as everybody else, to be perfectly happy; but, like everybody else, it must be in my own way.”
― Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility
Libra
You might say that Libra is the world’s most hopeful romantic. You’ll do anything for love, but you’re also savvy, confident and flirty, so you rarely have to lift a finger to attract a lover. Libra is most often the muse in the relationship. Proof of adoration is the stuff of romance for you, muse or not. A poem, a sketched portrait, a love song, a custom-designed diamond ring with an inscription are all part of your relationship vocabulary.
You might say:
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Scorpio
With a tendency to be possessive and secretive, a Scorpio’s way of flirting is to play mind games or ensure devotion by seeming hard to get. But when this zodiac sign is finally ready to show their cards, they won’t be shy. Your ultimate love language is erotic in nature, so you will demonstrate the level of your devotion by anticipating and meeting every physical need and making it clear your passion for your lover knows no end.
You might say:
“When I told you I didn’t want you it was the blackest kind of blasphemy.”
― Stephenie Meyer, New Moon
Sagittarius
Expansive and energetic Sagittarius has a unique love language that combines mind and body in only the way that this sign can. Sag’s attention and compliments feel like being inside a ray of sunshine. When you want to make your love known, you’ll put your lover on a pedestal or give yourself over in bed with a such a sense of abandon, they will forget you spent yesterday ignoring them because you were too busy to deal.
You might say:
“My soul will find yours.”
― Jude Deveraux, A Knight in Shining Armor
Capricorn
Tantric might describe a Capricorn’s love language. Setting boundaries and hitting goals just for the pleasure of the setting and hitting is your M.O., and romance isn’t any different. Showing your affection might come in the form of taking a rare day off or shutting off your phone to hear your partner out. For you, love is felt most strongly when it’s been won, achieved or when you’ve finally gotten all of your work out of the way and can now enjoy yourself.
You might say:
“There’s a very fine line between pleasure and pain. They are two sides of the same coin, one not existing without the other.”
― E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey
Aquarius
You tend to intellectualize everything, and love just refuses, much to your frustration, to be reasonable. An Aquarius always has a cause, so when you fall in love, your partner can become that “cause.” Your love language takes the form of shared beliefs that you are willing to fight for or an ambition that are working towards together. Think: training for a marathon with your partner even though you didn’t sign up for it and don’t plan to run the race.
You might say:
“But what now? What am I supposed to do with all these feelings?”
― Jenny Han, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
Pisces
If Libra is a hopeful romantic then Pisces is the zodiac’s most hopeless romantic. For you, love is all the sweeter when it comes with poetic sacrifices. You tend not to set or respect boundaries when you’re in love, and that becomes part of your language. When you want to show the depth of your love, you don’t hold back — you go all in, mind, heart, soul and body. You might spend late nights on the perfect little hand-lettered gift or drop major cash on an all-expenses-paid trip, all without expecting anything in return.
“Finding someone you love and who loves you back is a wonderful, wonderful feeling. But finding a true soul mate is an even better feeling. A soul mate is someone who understands you like no other, loves you like no other, will be there for you forever, no matter what. They say that nothing lasts forever, but I am a firm believer in the fact that for some, love lives on even after we’re gone.”
― Cecelia Ahern, P.S. I Love You
