[Note from Frolic: Today, co-founder Sarah Penna is back with more advice from her adorable grandma. This time, her grandma is talking all things love and relationships. Take it away!]
My grandma is back with more advice! My Grandma, Jeanette, was born in 1920 and has lived through A LOT. She’s always been there for me in big and small ways and she also has no filter, so when it came time for me to get married (almost 10 years ago!) I asked her for some advice for newlyweds. I am now sharing her great wisdom with you.
When I first asked her, her immediate reply was “well, I am not very romantic, what can you learn from me?” I reminded her that her marriage to my grandfather, who passed in 1999, lasted almost 45 years so she must have some wisdom to share. She replied with “yes, well you can get into a lot of trouble in 45 years!”
Below is the top advice from her:
-You have to trust each other. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, if you don’t trust each other it makes things hard
-You have to make it a true partnership where you make your decisions together. Create a team with your spouse, even if you’re disagreeing on something, work on it until you can find common ground and understanding.
-Do everything together! We traveled the world together and never got sick of each other.
-Don’t think that you know all the answers! You don’t! Sometimes you’re wrong and it’s important to accept that
-Don’t go to sleep angry. Settle it before you go to bed so you don’t wake up still angry.
Finally, I asked her what the most romantic thing my grandfather ever did was and she said he got her 50 roses on her 50th birthday roses and 75 roses on her 75th. She started tearing up thinking about those years and that time with my grandfather. It wasn’t always easy, but they made it work to the end.
She ended the call with “So that’s all the romance I can talk about! I was lucky, we had a good marriage and we liked the same things!”
So there you have it, I hope you enjoyed this advice. Let me know in the comments if you have any burning questions for her!