Chances are, you’ve heard a thing or two about the Myers-Briggs test. It’s a personality test that fits people into one of C.G. Jung’s psychological types. It’s used for all kinds of things — work, friendship, school, and our personal favorite… love. If you haven’t already, take the Myers-Briggs test to find out your personality type. And then, read on to learn what it says about your love life!
Ah, the logistician. Aka, the rationalist. When it comes to relationships, the ISTJ is not a spontaneous, spunky type. One night stands are uncomfy for these folks. Instead, they prefer relationships (although, they tread lightly), and once they’re settled, they’re all in. They tend to value stability, so drama and gossip are usually in the ISTJ’s no-no zone.
The ISFJ personality needs familiar territory. They are guarded and reserved by nature, but that doesn’t keep them from building a strong, everlasting relationship. Pro tip: When they have a tough time opening up, let the physical connection take the reigns. (That’s one of their top love languages).
The rarest personality type, INFJ takes love seriously. They’re not looking for a surface-level connection or a booming sex life. They want to know what’s going on inside your head. They may take their time finding their soulmate, but that’s because they’re analyzing every prospect along the way.
Another rare personality type, the “architect” approaches love quite differently than most. The INTJ is usually not a hopeless romantic; instead, this personality type focuses on a set of criteria that tells them whether or not a relationship is promising. The INTJ might seem to give up easily, but that’s because they know what they want. They’re always analyzing and figuring out the best path — and if you’re not it… you’re not it!
Brace yourself — this one’s a little complex. The ISTP type oscillates between passionate/loving and totally detached. This type isn’t a traditionalist, and they thrive off of spontaneity. But keep in mind: we’re dealing with an introvert here. If you’re not meshing, you may need to prepare for a “Dear John” text. That’s right, they’ll probably text it rather than break it off in person.
The ISFP type is one of the more extroverted introverts, but they’re still introverts at heart. You’ll see this when having deep conversations or even arguments. They prefer to listen rather than let out their feelings. That said, they’re warm, exciting, and spontaneous partners. Things may get mysterious, but they’ll never get boring.
The Mediator, INFP, is quite the idealist personality type. INFPs are in constant search of a fairytale-like story with their significant other, sometimes to the point of perfectionism. While on the search for their true love, they may pass up some great prospects — but that’s because they trust their gut and stick to their hunt for “the one.”
This personality type is known for going off the beaten path, and that sentiment bleeds into every aspect of their love lives. This type is one of the most — if not the most — logical type. The positive is they’re always looking for a solution, and they typically don’t lean into gossip or unnecessary drama. As for the downside, they might be too logical — leaving emotions and the heart out of the picture and instead, letting logic overrule.
ESTP is the entrepreneur. This is your classic star of the show, the class clown, and the first to get up on stage to show off their skills. So it goes without saying that the ESTP makes their romantic life pretty eventful. They like to think in the now, so they probably aren’t planning a spectacular dinner date or dreaming up your wedding plans — but they’re always down for an adventure or a laugh.
If you want to imagine what an ESFP is like, think Marilyn Monroe. She herself said, “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you surely don’t deserve me at my best.” Yep, that’s a good description of the ESFP, also known as the entertainer. In relationships, the ESFP just wants to find joy with their partners. They’re known for fleeting love, but when they find their person, they’re in it for the long haul.
The Campaigner personality type, ENFP, is an explorer, a free spirit, and an idealist. The love life of an ENFP is a shared experience, as the ENFP seeks to experience every bit of life and share it with their partner. At times, they can’t keep up with their emotional, soulful selves — so they may give off the “mood swing” vibes. But, nevertheless, they are loyal, loving, and all about equality in the relationship. Don’t think you can get away with paying for dinner twice in a row!
They call ENTPs a debater for a reason. This personality type is ready to challenge you in ways you thought unimaginable. It may sound bad (and believe us, sometimes it is), but the ENTP brings a lot of ideas and opinions to the table. They won’t let life get boring, and they’ll always push you to be what they think is the best version of yourself. And usually, they’re right.
Of all the personality types, ESTJ might be the one that experiences the least amount of change in their relationships. Most types have several different phases, but the ESTJ? Not so much. This type likes to keep it honest, straightforward, and practical from the getgo. In other words, if they pick you, their mind is made up. Lucky for you, they’ll put a lot of work into the relationship.
Looking for the most popular kid in school? That’s the ESFJ for you. This personality type is always in the know, and they usually make for a really good friend and partner. They love supporting their partners and friends, and they expect the same in return. That’s where you can run into some trouble — if you’re not there by their side. Just stick to your partner and you’ll be golden.
The ENFJ is the beloved protagonist. This is a personality type with strong values and passion for everything they do. At times, the ENFJ comes off as super type-A, and you’ll see this in your relationship. But they don’t need a lot from their partner — as long as you’re both working to keep the peace and ease into a beautiful relationship, you’re set up for success with the protagonist!
To get a good idea of the classic ENTJ, picture Steve Jobs, Gordon Ramsay, and Jim Carrey. The ENTJ, also known as the commander, has a lot to say and a lot to do. But don’t worry — they’re not all critics. They just crave success, which can prove to be an asset in relationships. They’ll let you know when things look like they’re doomed, which can be a tough pill to swallow, but they’ll also put all of their might into a relationship they believe in.
So, what’s the verdict? Will it work out or is it doomed from the start? As you go through your personality type and compare it to your special someone, think about the long run. In our opinion, you can always make it work — but we’ll leave that up to you.